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Wednesday, February 28, 2007

I Want a Willing Heart

I am spinning thinking about my world. I grieve for children today, and I want our world to be so much better. But, the questions that fill my mind are: What are am I doing about it? How willing are am I to give all for others? Where is my service?

One reason I am a Christian is the model of Jesus. He gave up everything. He gave up home, family, and heaven. He gave up everything for service.

I painfully reflect my life in contrast to His. I have a comfortable home, good family and a pretty great life. But, do these comforts come at the expense of someone that is equally as needy? Does the child in India sold into sex slavery, so family can eat; deserve her lot? When I am selfishly adding to my assets? It is sobering to contrast my life with Christ's.

In prayer I am seeking for deliverance of my own selfishness. I want a heart willing to walk away from everything; living unselfishly for service of mankind. I know I am starkly absent of these qualities. And so I pray, Lord make me willing.

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

Let's Go Sailing....

Right now my life is full of stress. My daughter is marrying someone I have concerns about, my parents are ill, and I feel as if my life is out of control. So I have been praying a lot. As I was praying I thought about the poor discipiles. They were in the ship thinking all was lost. They did not know they were about to witness a miracle.

As I thought of their situation I realized I feel lost at sea too; but Jesus is still there. He has not left, nor has He forgotten my needs. I don't feel Him, and I have seen no miracle so far- yet, I know he is there. So, today I chose to let God steer while I ride. I may travel through some high waves, and maybe get splashed a lot by life. But, God is in control, and today I chose to have faith He is in control.

Saturday, February 24, 2007

Time to Give Back

Sometimes it is hard for me to see how God is working; but yesterday God answered a pray for me and it made me smile to see the little things God takes care of in my life.

My mother has been sick and she is complaining non-stop. It has been wearing me down. I did not like my attitude because I have been avoiding my mother due to her continual complaining. So I prayed that God would help me to be able to be a better daughter.

Last night I picked up a magazine and read about "burn out". It described the condition and I saw my mom. Often it happens to care givers and my mom has been caring for my dad for many years. Now, when she is sick herself she is experiencing too much stress, and is reacting by complaining a lot.

Reading this article let me see that she has a condition. She is not just feeling sorry for herself. My heart was touched. One, is to realize my poor mother is worn out with life. Two, is to see that God helped me pick up just what I needed. Today I will go with joy to my mother and try to tenderly care for her: even if that means listening patiently to long pity- party conversation. Many years my mother has given, now maybe its time I can give back.

Friday, February 16, 2007

Cling to God

My mother has been in the hospital for a knee replacement. This has caused me to see my mother as depressed and worn out. I feel sorry for her, but her sorrow is triggering fears for me. I wonder when my parents are too old to care for themselves: will I be able to care for them? Many concerns twirl in my head wondering if I will be ready to take on the responsibilities of my "golden years". Will I be available for my parents, my husband and myself? I am in deep thought over it all. And I am tired.

Today I read of Jesus in the boat which slept through the storm. He was not frightened. He knew his father had all things in control. This is the kind of faith I long for- to just relax as the storm goes by me. To cling to God and know all is well.

Tuesday, February 06, 2007

True Love

By Willa Johnson

What is true love? Is there such a thing as true love? Many people believe they can answer ‘Yes’ to the second question. Others would scoff at the idea of love at all. What a shame!

February is the month known for “love.” Showers of such expression are doled out in abundance. The practice started back in the third century when St. Valentine, a priest, decided to disobey a Roman decree by Claudius and marry couples who were in love. For this he was put to death on February 14, 269 A.D. Two hundred and thirty years later, Pope Gelasius set aside February 14 to honour Valentine. Since then the date has become known as the time for lovers to send messages to one another.

It wasn’t until the 1800s in the United States that the commercialisation of card giving on Valentine’s Day became a tradition. The post office of Loveland, Colorado is inundated every year with an increased business in February.

From the Internet I learned… “In the Middle Ages, young men and women drew names from a bowl to see who their valentines would be. They would wear these names on their sleeves for one week. To wear your heart on your sleeve now means that it is easy for other people to know how you are feeling.”

Another superstition was: “Some people used to believe that if a woman saw a robin flying overhead on Valentine's Day, it meant she would marry a sailor. If she saw a sparrow, she would marry a poor man and be very happy. If she saw a goldfinch, she would marry a millionaire.”

As a child, more than once I did the following: “Think of five or six names of boys or girls you might marry. As you twist the stem of an apple, recite the names until the stem comes off. You will marry the person whose name you were saying when the stem fell off.” You know something? That almost came true, in a sense. My husband’s first name began with the letter I always repeated. Of course, I was thinking of the last name of a certain boy.

Getting back to what is true love, the Bible gives us the only real answer when we read, “For God so loved the world he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believeth on him should not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 That, my friends, is “Agape” or “True Love!” Christ’s commandment to us is “Love one another as I have loved you.” John 15:12

Willa Johnson writes from Phoenix, Oregon.

Three Men…One Wise, One Foolish, One Wicked

Author Unknown

Did you notice the picture God painted for us as we watched events unfold last month? We had the portrait of three men's lives shown clearly through the events of their deaths.

One wise man, one foolish man and one wicked man.

Their funerals spoke volumes about the course of life they had chosen to pursue with the years God had granted to them.

President Ford, James Brown and Sadam Hussein had choices in their destiny. They all stood in front of the God of this universe with those choices unveiled and judged.

President Gerald Ford, a man whose faith in God and service to his country was eulogized by many speakers during the solemn and dignified ceremonies which marked his passing. A man of character and integrity, not perfect, but made righteous by his faith in Jesus Christ. It was in this righteousness he lived out his life as a servant to his fellowman and his country. Great men and dignitaries attended his funeral - all came to pay respect and honor to a man most deserving.

James Brown also was eulogized in a funeral ceremony befitting his life choices. There was blaring rock music, gyrating bodies, costumes, and great sensual displays of revelry to portray the contribution this man had given through his life to his fellowman. He lived a life of drugs, alcohol, immorality, and rock music. He was heralded the father of Rap music and the inspiration of Michael Jackson's greatness. His funeral with all of its theatrics was befitting of the excess of waste his life portrayed.

Then there was the hanging of Sadam Hussein as punishment for his life of evil. His death was befitting his life of a brutal murderer and dictator. He was hung by his neck and secreted away in the middle of the night to an unmarked grave. Thousands of Iraqis celebrated his death for through his life he had brought untold misery and death to many. A man so wicked that it seemed the world breathed a collective sigh of relief at the pronouncement of his death.
All three men left their mark on the entire world.

There is only one whose life exemplifies the nobility of choosing to walk in harmony with The Creator through the acceptance of Jesus Christ as his Redeemer.

What will our story be when our time is up? What will those we leave behind celebrate about our choices? We can choose to live now the way we want to be remembered then.

The Stuff Of Love

By Kathy Anderst

We're all familiar with the phrase, "Money can't buy you happiness." I want to add to the phrase, "Nor can it buy you love!” Since the month of February is synonymous with Valentine's day, and love, it's no wonder that the mere mention of the holiday strikes fear into the hearts of most men. Husbands and sweethearts wonder if they will give the right gift that will make her happy. The media hype and resulting expectations seem to get more intense as each year passes. Valentines Day is the 4th biggest holiday of the year for confectionery purchases. (After Halloween, Easter and Christmas). In February 2005, U.S. jewelry stores sold an estimated $2.4 Billion of merchandise. For fresh flower purchases, Valentines Day ranks #1, capturing 35% of the holiday transactions, and makes it the #1 holiday for florists. And, 85% of the purchases are made from men.

Look at the following “Top 10” list of the most outrageously expensive Valentines Day gifts:
1. Annalisse yacht - $95 million
2. Satya Paul tie - $21 million
3. Scott Henshall dress - $5 million
4. Caran d'Ache's "La Modernista Diamonds" pen - $265,000
5. White Alba 2 lb 10 oz. Truffle - $112,000
6. Chateau d'Yquem Sauternes (1787) wine - $64,000 per bottle
7. Gucci "Genius Jeans" - $3,134
8. Lee Stafford "Couture Haircut" - $1,925
9. Golden Opulence Ice Cream Sundae - $1,000
10. Platinum Guild International "I Do" nail polish - $250 per bottle

Love is not about stuff. If my husband ignored me all year, because he was too busy making millions, I don't think I'd be too impressed with a $95 million yacht, or a $265,000 diamond pen. I look at my husband’s words, actions, his heart, his intentions and desires to see me happy. (Not that my happiness is 100% dependent on him!) To be honest, gift giving is not a strong point of this wonderful man’s nature, but he more than makes up for it in the other ways he expresses his love for me . I truly feel blessed on a daily basis, as he gives me many gifts, which I am honored to share with you here.

Gift of Words: Frequent " I love you's" and little notes and cards which he leaves on the dining room table or even mails to me at work.

Gift of Affection: Taking a minute after a busy day at work to rub my back or give me a hug.

Gift of Service: Does his best to get to that "Honey Do" list which can be long at times, and something I really appreciate on cold mornings: Scraping the ice off my car windows so I can get to work on time.

Gift of Time: Sits and listens to me talk about my day even though he's had a busy one too.

Gift of Gratefulness: Frequently says "thank you" for me taking time to create a special meal, for doing the laundry and other household tasks. How could I not appreciate that?

Gift of comfort: Has been there through the loss of grandparents, my brother, my mother, and a good friend.

I look as these gifts as the real "stuff" of love. By keeping my "love detector" high and unrealistic expectations low, I don't have to be disappointed on Valentines Day (or Mother's Day or Christmas) if he doesn't come through with just the right gift. I see and feel love 365 days a year in many ways.

Romance and Holidays can be kept in perspective as I appreciate him throughout the year. Romance is like icing on a well-made cake. Just a little makes it even better. If we eat a few bites of cake with a gallon of frosting on it, it would be impossible for us to enjoy. We would miss the cake! So, some advice: On valentines day, or any other romantic occasion, let's make sure we don't over focus on the gift, but focus on the giver.

If you are single, and dating someone special, keep your "love detector" up. Notice the way he expresses his love for you. It may not always be with gifts, but perhaps he can write a great love letter! If he e-mails you passionate love letters, print them and save them, along with any other cards or notes. Notice that gleam in his eye when he's with you! If you are single and not dating, notice the love of your immediate family, your church family and your lifetime friends. Love cannot be bought, it is not always presented in a pretty, perfectly wrapped package, but the stuff of love is all around us.

Of course, the most beautiful and powerfully perfect gift of all was manifested in Christ Jesus. As we behold Him and His perfect love for us, no earthly love can even compare?
Let’s enjoy Valentines Day this year, consider ourselves blessed from the beginning, and develop a new perspective of the big picture. There is love all around us. We can see it in God’s love for us and our love for others.

Kathy Anderst writes from Medford, Oregon.

The Old Cowboy

One morning an old cowboy entered a church just before services were to begin. Although the old man and his clothes were spotlessly clean, he wore jeans, a denim shirt, and boots that were very worn and ragged. In his hand he carried a worn out old hat and an equally worn out Bible.

The church he entered was in a very upscale and exclusive part of the city. It was the largest and most beautiful church the old cowboy had ever seen. The people of the congregation were all dressed with expensive clothes and accessories.

As the cowboy took a seat, the others moved away from him. No one greeted, spoke to, or welcomed him. They were all appalled at his appearance and did not attempt to hide it.

As the old cowboy was leaving the church, the preacher approached him and asked the cowboy to do him a favor. "Before you come back in here again, have a talk with God and ask him what he thinks would be appropriate attire for worship."

The old cowboy assured the preacher he would.

The next week, he showed back up for the services wearing the same ragged jeans, shirt, boots, and hat. Once again he was completely shunned and ignored.

The preacher approached the man and said: "I thought I asked you to speak to God before you came back to our church."

"I did," replied the old cowboy.

"If you spoke to God, what did he tell you the proper attire should be for worshiping in here?" asked the preacher.

"Well, sir, God told me that He didn't have a clue what I should wear. He said He'd never been in this church before."

Sent in by Merwin Rhoades from Roseburg.

The Greatest Threat

By Chuck Wygal

What is the greatest threat to the world, and the United States in particular? It isn’t Communism, it isn’t Secular Humanism, it isn’t anything that we see as a threat. It is the Church. The Church in the western world in particular. We have fallen into the trap that we criticize the Pharisees for; the trap of works. Christians in the US have a zeal for God, but not according to knowledge.

We are going about doing things in our own righteousness and not submitting ourselves to the righteousness of God. We are trying to “fix” our country’s problems through politics and the ballot box. It has not worked so far, but we think that if we get more Christians to vote maybe it will turn things around!

After our last election, when the Democrats took control, there was a conservative Christian in the news saying that the conservatives were sending a message to the Republicans that they were not doing enough, that is why the Republicans lost control. NOT!

Once a conservative leader quoted 2 Chronicles 7:14 and said: “We have the power to turn this country around.” Most of our Christian leaders will quote 2 Chronicles 7:14 and not truly consider what it says. We must look at the context.

When President Clinton was in office one of my favorite Bible teachers used to say that Clinton was not the problem, he was a symptom. A symptom of what the country had become. The Bible is clear that God is the one that sets up governments and takes them down. In Romans 13 we read that to resist our government is to resist God.

When the Israelites turned their back on God, God would send a Gentile nation to conquer and control them. Serving in the Temple more vigorously did not bring their release, they had to humble themselves before the Lord and confess their sin of turning their back on their God. When they did that God would turn their captivity into victory. 2 Chronicles 7:14 says when we, as a body, will confess that we have been trying to solve our problem on our own and humble ourselves, and admit that we are the problem, or at least standing in the way of the solution, then God will heal our land.

Chuck Wygal writes from Medford, Oregon.

Thank The Teacher!

By Sonia A. Randall

What do you do when your high-schooler's teacher makes an extra effort to encourage or help your child? Make a telephone call to express appreciation? Assume that such efforts are just part of their job? You might want to think about writing a "thank you" note even though it seems that hardly anyone does so anymore.

A note lasts longer than a telephone call and will be saved to be read over and over again in moments of discouragement. Sometimes it's hard to remember what was said in a telephone call -- especially if it was received several years previously. But a note, if saved, is always there.

This was brought home to me rather strongly when I wrote a note to one of my son's high school teachers thanking her for a special effort she had made. A week later I received a note from her thanking me for my note! The teacher expressed appreciation for my encouragement and made it clear, without being explicit, that such notes were rare in most teachers' lives. She made me feel that I had done something wonderful for her!

Another time I wrote a note to a first-year coach who had given special encouragement to my daughter. His wife told me later that he had been so thrilled that he decided to begin a book of 'memories' for his teaching career and that my letter was going on the very first page!

It is even appropriate to be appreciative when the child has had failures. The daughter of a friend of mine had a rough freshman year in high school. When an algebra instructor was the third teacher who called to say he was going to fail the girl at the end of the semester and that she should start going to study hall during that class period for the rest of the year, it seemed like the last straw. The child had two study halls already from other failed classes and a third would have her spending most of the day there. The mother begged the teacher to let her daughter stay in the class simply to avoid the humiliation of going to another study hall.

The teacher agreed even though he made it clear that the student was too far behind to have any chance of passing. Toward the end of the year, algebra started making sense to the girl and the next year she did very well when she repeated the class under another teacher. This is when the mother wrote a note to the first algebra teacher and thanked him for his consideration. She believed it helped and, if nothing else, it preserved some of the child's shredded self-esteem in a very discouraging year. She was very grateful and said so.

A well thought-out note doesn't have to be long or flowery, only sincere. You should be specific about what action or attitude you appreciate and why it meant such a lot to you or the child at this time. Such things include special acts of kindness, efforts to involve parents in the encouragement process, extra help or tutoring. It could be just the teacher's patience and understanding in a difficult situation. It doesn't have to be anything unusual. Your note will be very welcome simply because it is likely be the only one the teacher receives.

Your appreciation might even be for an action the teacher took which at the time seemed stern or harsh, but in the long run helped the student change his attitudes. This is a time when the teacher especially needs encouragement because so many parents react with anger and some hold a grudge for years.

If you let the teacher know that his action eventually had good results, he'll understand that you don't hold it against him and a lot of potential hard feelings can be smoothed over. This can be especially important if you have younger children who may have to take a class from this teacher in the future. It's good to keep the channels of communication not only open, but friendly.

You don't have to thank every teacher every year. Keep your notes for the ones who did something extra or whose attitudes made a difference for your child. When you do write such notes of appreciation, it should be done the next year or at least after your child is out of that teacher's class, so there will be no suspicion of bribery or apple-polishing.

You may never know how much this means to a teacher. But a word of encouragement, especially if it comes unexpectedly and lets a teacher know that he made a difference in someone's life, can be most rewarding.

Sonia A. Randall writes from Corvallis, Oregon.

Closed And Opened Doors

By Jessica Kennedy

"When one door closes, another opens. But we often look so regretfully upon the closed door that we don't see the one that has opened for us." Alexander Graham Bell

In 1998, I suffered a brainstem stroke and became a ventilator dependent quadriplegic. I was paralyzed emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. I thought I was worthless and that was what I became. I created a person consumed by thoughts of what I could no longer do. I lacked faith. I believed I was no longer a "real person.” I thought God deserted me. In the poem “Footprints” Mary Stevenson wrote: “I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me?" That was how I felt. The door to my past and future slammed shut.

Bored with the self-involved person I became, I reached out to Connie Lopez. A belief that God allowed this to happen kept me from seeking Him directly. I found Him through her.

Connie had a disease called Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS). In ALS nerve cells that control muscle cells are gradually lost. Little by little the person loses strength in his limbs, becomes paralyzed and dies.

Before I met Connie, I thought no one's life was as horrible as my own. Why did God let bad things happen to me? I was a good person. My thoughts revolved around what I lost. The things I was able to do changed, but I existed. Yet, exist was all I did.

When the door opened to Connie's room, I rolled through it and found Christ’s love, worth and hope. Connie was completely paralyzed. Evidence of depression over her situation was absent from her manner. With her love of Christ exerting a positive influence, I found my smile. Everyone says Connie had a beautiful smile. Connie was unable to smile with her mouth, but a smile resided in her eyes and it was beautiful.

In order to communicate, someone would hold up an alphabet chart and point to each letter. To say, hi they would point to A, B, C, D, E, F, G, and at H, she blinked. The same process was followed for the letter I. In order for Connie to "say" one sentence often took 5-10 minutes.

Connie enjoyed my visits, because it gave her the opportunity to communicate. For five months after my stroke I used a similar board to express myself. Rather than undertake the process of speech through the use of the board, she and I opted for silence. My experience mirrored hers. She was alone...isolated by her inability to speak out loud, but she exuded a peace.

I purposefully asked questions which required more than a yes or no response. When I was in her situation, I tried to trim my speech. I felt guilty about making others use the board. For hours I would sit and listen to Connie. There was no need for her to feel rushed. She knew she could take her time to express herself fully.

The best gift I was ever given she gave me. At one of my visits she asked for me to look up a Bible verse. The verse was 2 Corinthians 12:9: “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.” If she could believe this, as she lay there dying, then I could, too.

My friendship with Connie showed me that I could live a useful life in spite of my disabilities. If only I opened my heart to God, He would show me His love. “The Lord replied, ‘My son, My precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I Carried You." Mary Stevenson
Connie faced more obstacles with her illness than I did with my disabilities, yet she pulled me out of my depression. She had peace because she accepted the cross He gave her to bear. A woman incapable of audible speech gave me so much letter by letter.

My relationship with Connie taught me I could find a way to move forward and truly live regardless of my circumstances. Today, I do not call myself or think of myself as disabled. I speak at continuing education classes for respiratory therapists. I write articles. My mind no longer stays trained on what I have lost. I praise God for what I have. I need only to believe I have worth, have a faith in God and love for God. I picked myself up and opened the door to my future with a renewed faith in Him.

Jessica Kennedy writes from McKinney, Texas. JessicaKennedy1971@yahoo.com

I Was Set Free From Fear

By Beverly Hill McKinney

The rattling of the front door brought me suddenly awake. I looked around and saw it was 2:00 am. Darkness engulfed me. I thought “Who would be rattling my door at 2:00 in the morning?”
I knew it couldn’t be my husband, Jim, as he was working an all night job in town ten miles away. I am alone! I whispered. Our house was on the bible college campus where my husband was a student, and nestled among trees at the top of 32 steps. A long porch extended the length of the front of the house. Since the house was so sheltered and our nearest neighbors were 200 or 300 feet away, help was not nearby.

The rattling continued and I was terrified. What should I do? Should I call the sheriff, or should I get up and see what was happening? Since the sheriff was ten miles away, I decided to get up and headed toward the front door. In my mind I reasoned if someone was rattling my door that much he probably wanted to see if anyone was home. I quietly got out of bed without turning on the light, went into the front room, and quickly flipped on both the front room light and the outside porch light. Immediately the rattling stopped. To terrified to look out the window onto the front porch, I ran to the phone to call the sheriff and then Jim at work.

About twenty minutes later, while I had been numb with fear, the sheriff and Jim arrived. As Jim ran into the house, I threw myself in his arms. I was trembling and frightened and cried out in my fear.
The sheriff looked around the surrounding area, but footprints were not visible. The hillside was covered in ivy so foot prints, if there, were lost. The sheriff concluded it was either a deer or raccoon who had probably stumbled and hit the door while running off the porch. He assured me he would be there immediately if I had further problems. That week, after a number of inquires, I learned there had been numerous other break-ins in the surrounding area.

This incident put a fear in me to stay alone at night. Besides going to school, Jim worked all night Saturday delivering papers. I realized that on those evenings I would be alone.

After much discussion, we decided I would either go to work with him, staying awake all night, or go to my parents’ home 50 miles away. We altered this plan to one week at my parents’ home and one week at his work. This lasted for about six months.

Because I was not getting the sleep I needed, my work was slipping and my supervisor became concerned. I knew this situation could not continue or I would lose my job.

Soon after this incident, a town rental nearer my work became available. We felt a move off campus would help. Our new home was located off a main street and nestled among large trees. The trees created a very dark area at night around our home. I continued to be frightened, although we no longer lived on campus. Fear seemed to dominate my nights.

I had been a Christian for many years, and not being able to abandon this fear caused me great conviction. I was overwhelmed by my lack of trust for the Lord’s care and protection. I prayed fervently but still could find no peace.

I continued to pray and searched the Scriptures, but the more I searched, the more convicted I became. Nearly six months later, I was tossing and turning in sleep. Suddenly, I awoke with the words of two Scriptures resonating in my mind.

One was Isaiah 41:10: “So, do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” The other Scripture was Psalms 4:8: “I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, O Lord, makes me dwell in safety.” I had instant peace and assurance that the Lord had delivered me from fear. From that instant on, my fear was gone.

Some years later, we pastored in a remote section of Southern Oregon. Our nearest town was 35 miles away, and neighbors were few and spread some distance apart. The parsonage was attached to the back of our little rural church building.

Jim was leaving to attend a week long minister’s meeting across the state. He told me he would call each night to be sure I was safe. Soon after he left, a member of our church board arrived at our house to see if I would like his wife to come and stay with me each night. I could not understand his reasoning and asked him why he made this request. He said all the former minister’s wives were frightened to be alone when their husbands were gone, because of the remoteness of the church. I assured him I would be fine.

That night as I was reading in bed after putting my five-year-old son in his room, the wind began to howl outside and rattle things in our attic. I could also hear faint sounds of windows and doors rattling in the old church building attached.

The two verses that had been given to me long ago came to mind. I realized that, indeed, I had been set free!

Beverly Hill McKinney writes from Rogue River, Oregon.

Have Red Hot Valentine’s Day

By Bill & Pam Farrel

One of my (Pam’s) favorite candies are Red Hots, or Red Hot Tamales. That zesty cinnamon flavor really makes me feel alive! I think that is why so many euphemisms for sex and romance are related to red, hot, or fire. Think about it, “Come on baby light my fire,” or “Hunka hunka burnin’ love,” Maybe you were from a conservative background and didn’t listen to those tunes, but you may have whispered things in the throws of passion like, “You set my heart ablaze,” or, “I am consumed by your love.” Don’t we all long to be loved so intensely that nothing can stop or quench the burning passion?

Why do we long for that kind of intense, all-consuming love? Because God designed us to give and receive love. He hard wired us for passion. The media is filled with all kinds of pictures of sexuality, but they are false, lies, misrepresentations of the real thing. So move over Victoria! Sizzling sex and real romance-- Red Hot Monogamy was God’s secret long before it was Victoria’s secret!

The world needs to see more couples who have strong marriages. In our book, Red Hot Monogamy, we give couples lots of information to make their dating and romantic life red hot (over 200 red hot date ideas are included in the book). So if you want to make your romance red hot this Valentine’s Day, then consider this acrostic for H.O.T. and check out a few of the many ideas from Red Hot Monogamy, maybe something listed will fan the flame, light a spark, and set the heart of your spouse aflame!

H is for Hear my Heart
Romance is personal. Use Valentine’s Day to tell your spouse: I was listening! Maybe your love has wanted to experience something unique like:

Retro romance: Have an old fashioned evening. Send a formal invitation; Come to the door with flowers and chocolates; Open all the doors; perhaps find a “malt shop” or some other nostalgic place to go on the date. Find the “Lover’s Lane” place to park and “look at the moon” and steam up the car windows a bit; Give a kiss under the light at the door at the end of the evening.

Have dinner someplace different in your home: in front of the fireplace, on the rooftop, on the patio or balcony out back, in the attic, under the tree in the back yard, etc.
Create a luau I the living room: borrow some plants, get some island music, throw down some beach towels, ring in luau food, wear your sarong or bathing suit.

Or compliment your love:
Use everyday items to send a unique set of messages, The title of a candy bar with a note that says, “You are a “Big Hunk” of Burning Love, or I’ “Red Hot: for your love. Or use what is in your home: “You are my CUP of tea”; “I love to STAIR at you!” “You’ve opened the DOOR to my heart.”

Write your own “feature” article about your spouse who was just named, “World’s greatest Lover.” Include all their bet traits as a lover, add in a picture of this famous lover and frame it!
Use a magazine cover like Time’s Person of the Year and scan in your spouse’s picture. Or use Glamour or GQ or other magazine with catchy headlines but replace the model with a picture of your mate.

“How do I love thee, let me count the ways.” Write on a set of index cards all the reasons you love your spouse; make a paper chain of her or his best qualities; bring one a flower for each positive trait you want to recount and bring them in one at a time to her as your verbally list off what makes your heart sing.

O is for Offer to Lower my Stress
Romance is one of the best ways to show tender loving care to your mate. Use this evening to create a spa for the soul type experience. Men, when surveyed for our book, Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti noted that what is romantic to them is a woman who will make their life easier. And women noted that what is sexy to them is a husband doing things like the dishes, playing with the kids or doing her honey do list!

Kidnap” your spouse from work or other responsibility—like in the middle of mowing the lawn—and blind fold them and take him/her to a romantic rendezvous.
Bring in breakfast in bed with an invitation to spend the whole day in bed.
Exercise together, ride a tandem bike, or dance in the living room.
Run a bubble bath by candlelight with rose pedals floating in the water, followed by a spa quality massage.

T is for Take Your Time to Romance Me
Romance is better if it isn’t rushed. So if you can extend your romance plan to an entire day or weekend, big romance points will be made.

Recreate your first date. If you can still fit into it, wear the same clothes, if not, at least go to the same places. Revist the place where you honeymooned for a second honeymoon. Return to the place you first kissed, the place you proposed, the place you first met.

Relax: Check a book out of the library or buy a book of love poems. Sit in front of the fireplace in each other’s arms and take turns reading poems to each other.

The result of this Valentine’s Day of red hot romance will linger—and most likely the results will be noticeable. People will be able to tell that you two have Red Hot Monogamy. They will see it in the sparkle of your eyes, from the smile on your face and from the skip in your step. When sparks are flying, no one has to say a word, everyone can tell when someone is in love. Your love will be a light of hope, others will get a snapshot of what God’s love looks like in a marriage relationship. (Just check out Song of Solomon) Strike the match—plan some Red Hot Monogamy for this holiday.

Pam and Bill Farrel write from San Marcos, California. They are relationship specialists, international speakers and authors of over 26 books including. farrelcommunications.com

God or no God?

Author Unknown

A professor of philosophy at USC was a deeply committed atheist. His primary goal for the required class was to prove that God couldn't exist. On the last day of every term, he would say to his 300 students: "If there's anyone here who still believes in God, stand up!" In 20 years no one had stood. "Because," he continued, "anyone who believes in God is a fool. If God existed, he could stop this piece of chalk from hitting the floor and breaking. Such a simple test, and yet he can't do it."

A few years ago, Jim enrolled in this class because it was required for his major. He was a Christian, a freshman, and afraid. Every morning he prayed that he would have the courage to stand up no matter what the professor said or what the class thought.

Finally, the day came. "If there's someone who still believes in God, stand up!"

Jim stood. The professor and 299 students looked at him, shocked, as he stood in the back of the room. The professor shouted, "You FOOL! If God existed he could keep this piece of chalk from breaking when it hits the floor."

He dropped the chalk, but as he did it slipped from his fingers, off his shirt cuff, onto the pleats of his pants, down his leg and off his shoe. The chalk hit the floor and rolled away UNBROKEN.
The professor's jaw dropped as he stared at the chalk. He looked up at the young man and then ran out of the lecture hall.

Jim walked to the front of the room and shared his faith in Jesus for the next half hour. All the students stayed and listened as he told of God's love for them and of his power through Jesus.

Sent in by Kathy Anderst from Medford.

The One-legged Bird

By Mary Skoglie

"Look at the birds in the air. They don't plant or harvest or store food in barns, but your heavenly Father feeds them. And you know that you are worth much more than the birds." Matthew 6:26 (New Century Version)

Have you noticed that sometimes it's easier to feel compassion for an animal than for a fellow human being? I used to laugh at my second husband for this very quality in him--until recently.
My best friend and I were having lunch at McDonalds, eating probably more than we should--but hey, it's McDonalds: nobody eats there to LOSE weight anyway! While we were there, we noticed a man drinking his coffee who appeared to be, perhaps, mentally ill. Before we left, my girlfriend put me to shame, offering this man a meal if he was hungry. He thanked her very nicely, but insisted he was not hungry, just enjoying his coffee.

When we went to the car, I was startled by a small bird that was flying in a clumsy manner. When he flew over to the other side of the car I noticed that the little bird only had one leg! I was shocked, and as we pondered his condition, my friend joked that he was "disabled.”

As anyone who knows me at all will gladly vouch for, I am VERY squeamish of birds! And yet at that moment, I had to restrain myself from bolting out of the car, and trying to scoop up this poor little fellow, taking him home, and spoiling him rotten for life! I don't know just how you spoil a bird, but I was half-ready to try! As we drove away, I joked to my friend that perhaps that little bird should just FLY on over to the disability office to apply for benefits!

This whole bizarre experience, funny though it was, bothered me. While I do have a particular burden in my heart for the mentally ill, I also am sometimes afraid of them--especially if they are male. Usually any fear of the mentally ill is absolutely unwarranted, however. They are generally as nice as anyone else, even if they sometimes act very different. They do tend to view the world through a very different set of lenses, after all. But they bleed red, just like the rest of us. Yet, somehow I had more compassion for a tiny bird than a human.

My friend suggested that perhaps part of the reason is because I know the bird is completely innocent. She's right--but just TRY to explain that to the families of the worms he's eaten! Yet if he were to bite me in a panic as I tried to scoop him up, my wound would soon heal. Humans, on the other hand, can leave scars that never go away! I've been divorced three times. I am happy with the life I live now, and I am content. Yet like the rest of us, I carry plenty of scars that no one can visibly see. They run far deeper than any animal bite. Some may never fully heal. And all a person has to be now is MALE to make me afraid to chance getting to know them. Of course, I am good friends with many men that I do not fear. Nonetheless, the scars left by a number of men in my past, from high school on, have often never fully healed, making me afraid to trust most of the male population!

I am glad God is above all of humanity! Even though He came to earth as a Man, He lived a life that far exceeds anyone who has ever lived, male or female. And someday, as it so beautifully explains in Revelation 21:4: "He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death, sadness, crying, or pain, because all the old ways are gone." (New Century Version) Every tear that a man or woman has ever caused us to shed will be someday wiped dry by the Lord, Himself. My scars and yours may still be with us for now, but on that great day--NO MORE! That gives me hope!

Mary Skoglie writes from Medford, Oregon.

More

By Debbie Daley

Pray more
Talk more about You
Rejoice more
Speak of things that are true

Encourage more
Show more love every day
Trust more
Watch faith grow along the way

Seek more
Look more deeply into Your word
Grow more
In trials Your voice is heard

Appreciate more
Think on the things that You’ve done
Hope more
The same hope that sustained Your Son

Weep more
Have a soft and yielding heart
Shine more
Reflect the love of a Father’s heart

Love more
Pour more of Your Spirit through me
Give more
So a blessing to others I’ll be

Debbie Daley writes from Jacksonville, Oregon

Marriage Adjustments

By Bob Hansen

I recently convinced my wife to read aloud one of my columns-in-progress. I guess I shouldn’t have done that, for, as a result, I discovered something I wish I didn’t know. Apparently my wife doesn’t think everything I write in a humorous vein is funny. This was quite distressing to learn and it wounded my ego.

I wrote that column some time ago, but was having a hard time getting it past the Column Approval Committee (my wife). Finally, I made the adjustments that I thought would result in acceptance. The shock, however, came as she read it out loud.

As I wrote the piece, I thought to myself at certain points, “This will make her laugh.” I didn’t realize I was doing this until that fateful day. As she read, she did laugh at some of the right places, but didn’t at others.

When she finished, I said, “I thought you would laugh at that line about video games.”
“I didn’t think it was funny.”

How’s that for brutal honesty? But I didn’t want her to know how shaken I was so I countered, “You’re supposed to think everything I write is funny. It’s part of your job.”

After I let that slip I knew I was in trouble. For, if she desired, she could easily pick apart my statement. Instead, and to my relief, she said, “Different people have different senses of humor.”
Even though I had been granted a reprieve, the whole situation still bothered me. “But didn’t you promise to laugh at my jokes when we got married, 32 years ago? Wasn’t that part of our wedding vows?”

“No.”

“Well it should have been.” That was the statement that set me contemplating those promises we made so many, happy years ago. For while those vows were valuable and I still whole-heartedly believe in them, they now seem somewhat deficient.

I guess it’s more that they lacked specifics. There certainly was something in there about “honoring.” This, one might reasonably conclude, could be applied to laughing at the other person’s jokes. But apparently that was not the only interpretation. Of course, at the time of our marriage, I was too young and naive to anticipate the situations that would arise.

Now that I’m older and wiser, I now have a list of things I’d like to add, as an addendum, to the marriage vows: As I’ve already mentioned, there is the laughter thing. I suppose in my logical mind, I realize that my wife is right about people having differing senses of humor. But ultimately I don’t care about that. I still think she should laugh at my jokes. Let’s make this an official part of the vows.

As a partial concession on this point, I don’t see anything wrong with her practicing an artificial laugh. With only minimal effort, I’m sure she could perfect it to the point that I could delude myself into believing it is real. Think how much better I will feel then.

I also believe that my wife, and so by inference, every wife everywhere, should work one of the following phrases into casual conversations with their husbands, “You are smart.” Or, “You are the wisest man alive.” I don’t mean this to be a heavy burden on wives. Using one of these sentences every two or three days should be sufficient. What’s wrong with adding a pledge to do this to the vows?

And, though I’m now over fifty, it would still be helpful if my wife made comments like, “Look at those muscles. You are my strong man.” Yes, that has a nice ring to it. Once a week should do it. Shouldn’t the marriage pledges include a promise to say things like this?

In a magnanimous gesture, I have promised to dedicate my next column to the things my wife would like to adjust in regards to our marriage vows. Actually, it was the only hope I had of getting this article through the one-person review committee.

I must say, that in all these thoughts, I have come to realize how smart God is. He is wise in both generalities and in specifics. As to the first, I find that the idea he came up with (called marriage) was one of his best. In so many ways it shows God’s genius. Through marriage we are fulfilled, completed and challenged to grow.

As to specifics, I feel particularly blessed. For, thirty-three years ago I surrendered my will to God and asked him to send along His choice of a spouse for me. That He did and I have received the awesome benefits.

Bob Hansen writes from Chehalis, Washington.

Children’s Book Review Lighthouse Mouse

A new book for children entitled: “Lighthouse Mouse” has been written by Susan Anderson Coons from North Bend, Oregon. The children's book plants the seed of prayer into the lives of 3-7 year olds. The rhymed picture book with the story of a mouse who prays and gets answers in surprising ways is capturing the imagination of parents and librarians. Colored illustrations are by Pat Undis a watercolorist and art teacher at the University of Minnesota. The pictures add beauty that makes the book memorable for children and parents alike. The paintings were displayed at a Midwest art show in January.

The book comes with a bonus of two "lighthouse mice" representing two US lighthouses with their embroidered pictures on their chests along with a tiny booklet about that specific lighthouse and a sticker for the child. Lighthouse collectors may wish to get more mice and book packages.

”Lighthouse Mouse” is a great gift for families and parents interested in teaching their children about prayer.

The book is $11.95. Mice are $14.95, but there is a special book packet that includes two mice and a book. To order call (541) 751-1566 and ask about the Christian Journal special.

JESUS LOVES ME!

By Patti Iverson

“Jesus loves me, this I know, for the Bible tells me so! Little ones to Him belong, they are weak, but He is strong. Yes, Jesus loves me. Yes, Jesus loves me. Yes, Jesus loves me. The Bible tells me so!”

“I pray that you may have power to grasp how wide, long, and deep is the love of Christ.” Ephesians 3:17-18

In 1860 Anna B. Warner penned a poem, “Jesus loves me.” It was a profoundly simple, profoundly complex concept. Anna’s sister needed a song for a Sunday School teacher to sing to a dying boy. So Anna wrote what she knew. Then, in 1862, her now famous words were put to the music written by William Bradbury.

This children’s hymn is heard around the world. The Reverend Dr. Jacob Chamberlain translated it into Telugu for the Hindu children. It is fun to read in Japanese, French, and Korean languages. Well, okay, I cannot read it—just “see” it. Seems most kiddos in most countries can hum or sing “Jesus loves me” because some dear saint cared enough to teach the saving grace of Jesus Christ to those little souls. Awww. Ahhhh. Awe. Kids “get it” as much as they pick up the “Nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah” ditty, to the tune of “Ring around the rosy” by osmosis.

Reverand Jenanyan took his wife and daughter on a dangerous missionary journey (way back in 1891) from Taursus (Paul’s old stomping grounds) to Sivas in Armenia. There was a rather rotten “Robber Chief” who took the men to his tent while the wife and wee girl were cared for in another tent by the women of the village. Before they left the next morning, after the Rev. prayed, he asked the Chief if he’d like to hear their little three year old, Grace, sing in their native tongue. The Chief said, “Yes.” (Nobody is a total bad guy) And here this man, a big honcho Chief, who caused such terror, was so moved he sent his own son, Bekkeer Agha, on a fine Arabian Steed, to lead the small missionary family through the rest of his territory so they’d be safe.

Proverbs 8:17 says: “I love those who love me, and those who seek me early will find me.”
I don’t think this means at 7:00 am. Not that kind of early! Children have such an easy wonder and trust in Jesus early in life. Yet, it can be just as easily destroyed, trampled upon, and changed as it is easily taught. We must protect those dear little hearts. Then, when they soooo need to remember “Jesus loves me, this I KNOW…” the knowledge will flood their soul, they will be unafraid and comforted, knowing,~truly KNOWING the Holy Spirit will guide them, just because Jesus loves them.

Hey! This works for us older folks, too: “Jesus loves me, this I know, though my hair is white as snow. Though my sight is growing dim, still He bids me, trust in Him. Yes, Jesus loves me. Yes, Jesus loves me. Yes, Jesus loves me. The Bible tells me so!”

I cannot fully understand it. Cannot even grasp it, as stated in the opening verse from Ephesians. However could Jesus love me, so flawed and full of foibles ‘n frailties? But~ the Bible tells me so. He loves you, too. He was born for you. He lived for you. He died for you. He rose for you. He’s coming AGAIN for you. Wow. That IS love. That’s HIS story and I’m stickin’ to it.

Seems like the world has picked up on the phrase, “Jesus loves you”, but not always in the same context as our beloved Lord. Whitney Huston brought the song to Hollywood in her movie “The Bodyguard”- added a few lyrics, recorded it, and called it her own. Atheists, Lounge Lizards, and Satan himself vulgarly use and abuse it. Even the animal rights activist group, PETA, use the line, “Jesus loves me, too” on their sticker with a cute chirpy chick spouting truth as he sees it. Sheesh! Of course, am I any worse with my bumper sticker on my Harley Davidson helmet that says, “Jesus loves bikers, too?” Now we’re getting into meddling!

Oprah, who considers herself so deeply spiritual, and that’s between her ‘n God, has a monthly column on the last page of her magazine entitled, “This I know for sure.” I want that to be MY refrain, on the first page of my life. On the last page of my life! I want people to see it in me, to hear it from my lips, to know this truth by my actions:
This I know for sure: “Jesus loves me, this I know, for the Bible tells me so.”

Patti Iverson writes from Medford, Oregon. randpi@charter.net

I’ll Love You If…

By Chad McComas

Our culture today is obsessed with being in “love” with so many things.

We are in love with our sports team…that is until it loses most of its games and its players embarrass us with their antics off the field or playing court.

We are in love with our church…that is until it decides to do things differently from what we wanted it to do. It doesn’t play the right kind of music or preach the right kind of sermon so we forget about our love and move to another church.

We are in love with our job…that is until we are asked to do something we don’t want to do or we get a new boss we don’t like.

We are in love with our car…that is until it decides to break down and cost us dearly.

We are in love with our family…that is until someone hurts our feelings and we decide we don’t want to be around that person anymore.

We are in love with our boyfriend or girlfriend…that is until her or she hurts us in some way and we’d rather move on to another and “better” girlfriend or boyfriend.

We are in love with our spouse…that is until he or she disappoints us and creates a history of abuse and pain that we can’t deal with or won’t tolerate. We are anxious to move on.

We are in love with our God…that is until He disappoints us by not answering our prayers the way we wanted Him to or not helping us in our time of “need.”

Our love is very conditional.

His love is not.

This month’s issue theme is “Agape” love. Agape love is unconditional. It is something we can’t really understand. The Greeks had three words for love with Agape being the ultimate. It chooses to love in spite of circumstances. It loves when someone doesn’t deserve it. It loves because that’s what it does.

God is “agape” according to John. He says: “God is love.” 1 John 4:16 Our God loves us because He wants to. It is based on circumstances. It isn’t based on whether we deserve it or not. It is totally based on His decision to love “agape” us.

We talk about love. We often quote 1 Corinthians 13 about love when we have wedding ceremonies, etc. Paul says that love is… “Patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

This is “agape” love. It is impossible for us! We are creatures of conditional love.
Is there any hope for us to reach “agape” love?

Yes…Paul tells us that when the Holy Spirit comes to live inside us He develops fruit from His presence. That fruit includes “agape” love. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love…” Galatians 5:22
So we learn to love…unconditionally…agape…when God is in control of our lives. Is He? Is it working?

I Touched Your Heart

By Lynn Ludwick

On a hot afternoon last summer I delighted in an entire day with my two Portland grandchildren, just the three of us. Two-year old Hazel, with bouncy blonde curls to the middle of her back, gently fingered my heart-shaped necklace. As she let it go, she whispered, “I touched your heart.” Indeed!

Hearts. They’re up for grabs these days, not just by grandchildren and other special folks in our lives, but also by advertisers and marketers. You’ll find their replica shapes sprinkled liberally throughout stores this month in the form of candy, balloons and greeting cards. ’Tis the season to hawk cheap love, though certainly not at cheap prices. The strategy is, “if you really love him/her, you’ll buy…”

My question is, how are those canned expressions able to demonstrate the fullness of our affection for those we hold dear? And what of love received, which wraps us close as a warm quilt on a chilling winter night? Cards and candy skim the surface, hit at an emotional level, but they fail to go deep. Not to the depth Hazel touched. Yet not all who grab at our hearts have sweetness in mind. Some would seek to worm their way in only to control and manipulate. Their intentions range from misguided to flat out mean.

When our hearts become involved with God, however, it’s all about pure love—selfless, unconditional and eternal. 1 Chronicles 16, 2 Chronicles 7 and 20, along with Psalms 100, 106, 107, 118, and all of 136 remind us: “His love endures forever.” (I suspect with that much repetition God hopes we really get the message.) Psalm 107 commands we “give thanks to the Lord for his unfailing love…” No human is capable of such enduring and unfailing love. All that pseudo stuff marketed by the commercial world, and even our best human efforts, pale in comparison to God’s love. Jesus left the glories of Heaven and ventured to Earth, His sole mission to solve our sin issues and reconcile us to God. The incarnation, then the cross and the resurrection—the guiltless One taking the place of me, the guilty one. Once He returned to Heaven, mission accomplished, He eagerly awaits my arrival to join him for all eternity. Rather mind-boggling! John 3:16, bandied about on banners at sporting events and possibly ho hum with familiarity, takes on new meaning. “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
For sure, my heart is safe with Hazel. Even if she were to voice an unedited opinion (children are famous for their blunt honesty), I’d know her affections didn’t waver one iota. Sometimes, however, people’s blunt honesty is barbed and damaging. So my heart is safest with Jesus alone. “My soul finds rest in God alone.” Psalm 62:1 Philippians 4:4-7 suggests we rejoice in Him and give Him all our anxieties, being thankful along the way. Thus will my heart be guarded by Christ’s peace. How great is that!

We want that peace in our lives right here, right now. What we really desire is for our circumstances to change. They don’t always. Our peace comes from remembering that no matter the discouragements, letdowns, failed expectations, or heartaches that befall us, we’re safe with the Lord. Oh, our heartaches are real, but we’re not adrift on a sea of despair if we trust Jesus, lover of our souls.

Hazel touched my heart that August afternoon, and I’ll never forget the moment. But Jesus Christ touched my heart and I’ll never be the same. Never ever, for all time and eternity.

“The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:12

Lynn Ludwick writes from Shady Cove, Oregon. Lynniegirl45@hotmail.com

Angel Unaware

By DJ

It began as a typical drive home from work one winter evening. The hills drew me as I drove the high edge of the valley. From the narrow two-lane road, city lights spread out below like a sea of stars blinking at the night sky.

Humming along to the tune on the radio, I thanked God for the lovely view, the productive day at work, and the blessing of a trustworthy car. I motored around each winding corner dimming my “brights” as I encountered oncoming cars. The traffic seemed a bit light. It’s late, I reasoned. Most people would be home by now, with families and loved ones.

I turned my head and glimpsed at the city lights below once again. It’s such a beautiful view, Lord.

With the ebb and flow of the road, my mind wandered. I joined the female voice on the radio again, as she sang something about Jesus taking the wheel, letting go, and second chances.
Suddenly, the engine of my ‘92 Camry quit. Just like that! There was no pop, no boom, no grinding noise of any kind. Just the sickening silence that spells trouble. The light on the pavement gave evidence that my headlights still worked as my car continued to coast down the hill. That was a good sign. The dashboard lights blazed through the dark interior of my car. Can’t be electrical. I felt sure of my intuition. The melody on the radio continued, “Jesus take the wheel…” How fitting! I needed the Lord to take the wheel because the power steering had just stiffened in my gloved hands. I envisioned, with great dismay, my next several paychecks flying out the window to repair whatever was wrong.

Coasting to a stop along side the narrow road, the anxious pounding of my heart filled my ears. Great. Now what, Lord? What do I do?

I flipped off the headlights, hushed the radio, and waited for the antenna to automatically lower itself into its steel cocoon. For a moment I sat in blackened silence. Ok. Let’s try it from the top. Maybe it was just a fluke. It’ll start right up and I’ll be off again. No problems. I’ll be home safe and sound in no time.

A caravan of dark cars breezed by in a flurry. Thanks people. Hello? I’m alone here. It’s dark. I’m cold. G-r-r-r. I turned the key pretending nothing was wrong—as if my will could chase away my car problems! But only the dread r-r-r-r-r-r of an uncooperative engine echoed back at me. An uneasy hush filled the interior of my car as the cold from the outside seeped in. My thoughts grew increasingly anxious. Thoughts of being alone on this hillside with no one to advise me, no one to protect me, no one to help. I urged myself to push past the panic.

What would any other reasonably thinking single woman do? I asked myself wishing for a cell phone…and a warmer coat…as the chill inside the car settled in. The moments ticked by. Slowly, I grew aware of my opportunity to rely on God. Father, forgive me. I prayed. You’ve seen me through so much. I thought about how he had never let me down—not once—through the dark days after my husband of 21 years abandoned me. God had been my provision all along. I’ve never missed a meal, and I’m keeping up on my bills. I know you see my predicament, Lord, tell me what to do.

I decided to investigate the house across the road. A solitary light beamed through its corner window. With renewed determination, and a deep breath, I opened the car door and marched myself to the wooden porch of the unfamiliar residence.

Standing at what appeared to be a back entrance, I knocked hard and waited. Nothing. I knocked again, harder. Nothing. Silence stood next to me with a whispered warning. Maybe this isn’t a safe refuge. Go back to the car. Frightening scenarios of women being brutalized and raped swirled through my active imagination as I tiptoed off the porch and quickly made my way back to my deceased vehicle.

Safely inside I locked the doors. Alone and unaided, and still miles away from home, I did the only thing I could do. I prayed for a friendly face to help me out of this frightening dilemma. Please send someone soon, Lord. An angel would be great. I’m really, really cold.

The minutes ticked by. I repositioned the knitted scarf encircling my neck, snuggling it closer for warmth. Then crossing my arms, I placed my gloved hands in the pit of my arms. I needed to be patient and wait for God to work. No need to repeat my prayer. He heard me. I assured myself. I know He did.

I was humming in an effort to keep the eerie silence in the car and the encroaching fear in my mind at bay, when a small compact car rounded the corner pulling onto the shoulder just across the road. I watched the window retract.

“Hey,” a muffled voice hollered.

I rolled down my window to acknowledge the young man sitting in the car.
“Are you in trouble? Do ya need a cell phone?”

“Yes!” my relief was loud and obvious. There was my angel. Now I know, within reason, this would-be angel walked across that country road, but I could have sworn I saw wings carry him—the very one I had prayed for, waited for, believed God for.

I climbed out of my car. “Thanks for stopping.” I clasped my gloved hands together as if in prayer to underscore the depth of my gratitude.

“Would you dial the number for me?” I asked. “Even with these gloves on, my fingers are frozen.”

“Sure, what’s the number?” His grin was pleasant, genuine. I could trust him. My angel.

“You’re the answer to my prayer, you know.” In my gratitude, I felt like hugging this kid, this rescuer. “I prayed for an angel and here you are.”

“Cool!” was all he said, but his expression was proof that he believed me.

With the call placed, and help on its way, the young man might have felt that his good gesture was accomplished.

“Thanks again so much,” I said as I gave him back his phone.

“No problem. Hey, do you want me to stay till your friend gets here?”

What? This lively teen was willing to give of his cell phone minutes AND his time, delaying wherever it was he was off to, just to see to my safety, and well-being? I could hardly believe my ears.

He told me his name, this teen angel, but I don’t remember it. Perhaps it’s best. Perhaps that’s the way God wants it.

In spite of everything, I’ve driven that winding road in the weeks since I met my angel. It’s a beautiful drive. The nights remain cold, the pavement often icy, and I still don’t have that cell phone. But I travel with more confidence now because God’s angels really are alive and at large. I know—I met one.

“Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.” Hebrews 13:2 (KJV)

DJ writes from the Rogue Valley.

God is Love

By Fred Wikoff

Scott Peck, in his best seller, The Road less Traveled, says that to his knowledge, “no one has ever arrived at a truly satisfactory definition of love,” and adds, “Its real meaning remains illusive despite the best intentions of scholars.”

This mystery is especially pronounced when it refers to “falling in love,” verse true love. Many a frustrated parent has tried vainly to explain the difference to a love-smitten son or daughter. Some argue “falling in love” is not love at all, but sexual desire or lust. Peck even goes as far as to suggest that “falling in love” is nature’s way of assuring survival of the species; which all but lowers the human act of “falling in love” to that of a water buffalo in heat.

My unabridged dictionary offers no fewer than twenty-four definitions of love, sprinkled with many synonyms; which only underlines the difficulty of arriving at a satisfactory definition. With so many different uses it’s not surprising that most of us are at a loss when it comes to defining love.

Part of the difficulty is that we often confuse a host of inner emotions with love. And since no one can really tell what emotion or feeling another person is experiencing except that person, we tend to describe these feeling with synonyms: tenderness, fondness, warmth, passion, adoration, or affection. None of these words define love, but they do give us a hint as to the possible feelings motivating and accompanying an “act of love.”

Let me suggest that what many label as an “act of love,” is love itself. Whether it is giving a drink of water or our undivided attention to someone of the opposite sex, if it’s being done willing and for the recipient’s best interest, than this is love.

The scriptures tell us that love and God are one and the same. This would leave me to believe that love is only mysterious and defies definition because the world doesn’t know God. Perhaps this is what moved John to write: “He who does not love does not know God; for God is love.” 1 John 4:8

Love has always been the main force of God’s laws. (See Matthew 22:35-40) And it’s surely the overpowering theme of the New Testament and the focal point in the life of Jesus Christ. Could it be that understanding true love is as simple as knowing God?

Because of sin it was necessary for Christ to bring the truth of God’s love back into the world. Sin had cast a shadow of death on God’s love, hiding it from mankind: “He was in the world, and the world was made through him, yet the world knew him not.” John 1:10

Christ’s coming changed all of that. Every step of his life illuminated and verified God’s love. He taught, he healed, he forgave, he raised the dead, and yes, he chastised. His entire purpose for being was to make love known to the world.

These acts of love in Jesus life become for us the very best proof that God is love. When his disciples ask Jesus to show them the Father, he told them that anyone who had seen him had seen the Father. (John 14:9)

So forceful is God’s love that the Apostle Paul tells us that he was overpowered, subdued, and held as in a vise by “the love of Christ.” (II Corinthians 5:14)

Very few of us really know what it means to be so completely controlled by the love of God. It is only when we draw close to him and yield to the power of his love that we began to understand the active role that love plays in our everyday lives and the world around us. We learn to let God’s love shine through us because he “first loved us.”

Christ’s life on earth truly unveiled God’s love, once and for all, and his loving desire is for us to love one another; as he has loved us. “By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:35

“For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

Fred Wikoff writes from Eugene, Oregon. EugeneSpud@msn.com

Do We “Fear” The Lord?

By Stewart Whittemore

“Then the churches throughout all Judea, Galilee, and Samaria had peace and were edified. And walking in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit, they were multiplied.” Acts 9:31 (NKJV-emphasis added)

Do we “fear” the LORD?

In the Book of Psalms, 34:11-16, David tells us: "Come, you children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the LORD. Who is the man who desires life, and loves many days, that he may see good? Keep your tongue from evil, and your lips from speaking deceit. Depart from evil and do good; Seek peace and pursue it. The eyes of the LORD are on the righteous, and His ears are open to their cry. The face of the LORD is against those who do evil, to cut off the remembrance of them from the earth.”

One has only to look at the statistics of our "tolerance" for sin to see that many who say they are Christians actually do not act much different from those "who do evil.” Look at divorce in this country. Statistics show that divorce among Christians is not much different (now running at about 50%) than most of those who are not of the faith…my own failures included. God tells us that He "hates divorce." (See Malachi 2:16)

Let’s take a closer look at what the "fear” of the Lord means.

The Biblical Book of Proverbs is noted for its teaching on wisdom. Of the more than 70 times that "fear of the Lord" is mentioned in the Bible, sixteen come from the Book of Proverbs. For example…Proverbs 1:7 states: "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, But fools despise wisdom and instruction." In Proverbs 1:29-30 we read: "Because they hated knowledge And did not choose the fear of the LORD, They would have none of my counsel And despised my every rebuke." Therefore, "The fear of the LORD is to hate evil; Pride and arrogance and the evil way And the perverse mouth I hate." Proverbs 8:13

Jesus made it very clear to us about what "fear of the Lord" and hating evil means. He said: "If you love Me, keep My commandments." John 14:15 Jesus also knew we can’t be obedient on our own, so He said: "And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper (Holy Spirit), that He may abide with you forever --" John 14:16

The early church "walked the talk" with the power of the Holy Spirit and that is why "they were multiplied" in those days. They were "walking in the comfort of the Holy Spirit" to help them. Notice the key words in the phrase "walking in.” We have to make the choice as to whether or not we will allow God to work in us (walking in) "both to will and to do for His good pleasure." Philippians 2:13 For God is "not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance." 2 Peter 3:9 Of course when we choose not to “walk in the Lord” the result of that decision means…"The face of the LORD is against those who do evil, To cut off the remembrance of them from the earth." Psalms 34:16

Shall we “fear” the Lord? Yes! Why? Because…"Do not let your heart envy sinners, But be zealous for the fear of the LORD all the day; For surely there is a hereafter, And your hope will not be cut off." Proverbs 23:17-18

We can take comfort in remembering that Jesus died for us to atone for our sins so that "hope (the hereafter with Him) will not be cut off.” Let us show (walking the talk) Jesus that we love Him. That’s what the “fear” of the Lord is all about – loving Jesus and doing what He tells us to do in all aspects of our lives.

Stewart Whittemore writes from Grants Pass, Oregon.

Fifty to Seventy-Five Percent of Youth Leave The Church Dare2Share Invites Teens To Get Into Their Christianity

By Wendy Henkelman

DENVER
, January 22, 2007 —On March 16-17, up to 4,000 teens are expected at Overlake Christian Church in Redmond, (9900 Willows RD, NE, Redmond, 98052) for the GameDay conference, a national conference tour presented by Dare 2 Share (D2S), committed to energizing the faith of today’s youth. Partnering with Hope Link Mission, D2S teens will have a chance to impact the communities of Seattle on a grand scale.

WHY GIVE BACK TO THE COMMUNITY: Today’s teens desire ownership of what they are involved in. Giving back to the community by collecting canned goods for the local rescue mission gives them a chance to change and impact peoples lives. GameDay emphasizes that today is the day you make a difference – Yesterday is done and tomorrow may not come for you or the person you want to impact. Students will get the chance to get off the bench and get in the game by sharing their faith and impacting the communities around them. (Community outreach will take place on Saturday afternoon of the conference.)

“It’s time to equip our teens to know what they believe and why they believe it! Getting involved and impacting the community is just one way for students to start taking ownership of what they believe.” – Greg Stier, President and Founder, Dare 2 Share Ministries

YOUTH REALITY TODAY :
Two of three high school seniors will evacuate the church upon high school graduation. – Ba rna research.

Up to 50% of evangelical college Freshmen will forsake their beliefs by their senior year of college. – Dr. Gary Railsback national study.

Studies show that the majority of evangelical teens stop attending church and abandon their faith once they trade high school youth groups for college classrooms. Dare 2 Share believes the key to stopping this trend is providing information and purpose, not more meetings and preaching. The two-day event helps teens understand and internalize their belief system and gives them the tools needed to intelligently and effectively discuss their beliefs with others.
On Saturday, students will spread out into the community to collect food and talk about their faith. Last year D2S teens collected 129.6 Tons of food! That’s a net value of
$388,800 – which is enough food to feed the homeless in some cities for an entire year!

BACKGROUND: D2S will organize events in 11 cities nationwide this tour season. The Conference purpose is to energize and equip students to know, live, share and own their faith in Jesus. The events are structured for students in junior high and high school, ranging from 12 to 18 years old. Regardless of gender or denomination. D2S teaches from a Christian perspective. D2S is based in Denver, Colorado and has impacted the lives of more than 250,000 teens since 1991.

Wendy Henkelman writes from Denver, Colorado. wendy@dare2share.org

Come See The Daffodils

Unknown Author

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over."

I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. "I will come next Tuesday,” I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.

"Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!"

My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother."

"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.
"But first we're going to see the daffodils. It's just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this."

"Carolyn," I said sternly, "Please turn around."

"It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."

After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, "Daffodil Garden." We got out of the car, each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.

It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, and saffron and butter yellow. Each different colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.

"Who did this?" I asked Carolyn.

"Just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house.

On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking,” was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958."

For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time--often just one baby-step at time--and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the